But y'all love a bit 'o' controversy so here goes...
Being a connected parent is meeting your children's needs. I always liked the Dr Sears 7 Baby b's.
-bedding close to baby
-belief in the value of baby's cry
-beware of baby trainers
As children get older it's about respect, not using manipulation and staying connected.
Somehow this has blown out. Now there are some Mamas who make it seem that to be connected you have to do a whole lot more. Like elimination communication, cloth nappies, homebirth, homeschool, making meals from scratch and eating only the most organic, local food there is around. I think a lot of these things are great! I'm a big advocate of lots of the "extras", but I know a lot of families who do it differently who are just beautiful. A mother who's kids drink green smoothies and wear all re-purposed clothes is no better than a mother who's child wears the latest season brand name clothes and eats maccas. You may argue about who is more sustainable but that is NOT a pre-requisite of great parenting.
It's OK to hate hanging out the washing. It's OK to use disposable nappies. It's OK to take your child to the Doctor if you are feeling unsure. There are no medals for the most crunchy, eco-friendly, local eating, longest breastfed, off the grid, raw vegan, op-shopping, nappy-free, TV free, school-free families. Chances are your kids don't give a shit about any of this.
If you love doing these things then great! Do them, enjoy them, set whatever type of examples you are comfortable with.
What I'm concerned about is the pressure a lot of other Mamas feel. Some Mamas are struggling with the day to day of being there for their kids and can feel intimidated by what a "good mother" is becoming in the eyes of the hippy-la-la world. Having a pram does not make a disconnected parent unless there is a baby in said pram being ignored while it screams to be picked up. If you are ignoring your children while you struggle to perfect the art of lacto-fermantation the maybe eggs on toast would be a better option.
Get back to basics. Concentrate on listening to your kids. Stay connected. Do what you can. Find your community. If you want to do any or all of the other stuff go for it! But if none of those other thing appeal to you remember they have little to do with being a connected parent.