but I honestly think they don't realise what they do automatically to support their kids at school and learning everywhere, and give themselves no credit
It's so true.
I feel that we, in western society, have our power and innate knowledge as parents taken away before our children are even born.
We are told to rely on ultrasound to know when our babies were conceived, even if we know *exactly* when it happened. Our pregnancy gets an expiry date, regardless of the health of the baby and mother. If we choose the hospital system we may be induced or sectioned to suit blanket protocol rather than on the wishes of the parents and the health of the mother/baby.
When our babies are born we are encouraged to schedule our babies eating and sleeping habits with little regard to our own parental intuition and the cues of the child. We turn to books and TV shows with their "experts" to tell us what to do because we feel like we are not qualified. Often we listen to them more than we listen to ourselves in the spirit of "doing it right". We lie and feel guilty about doing things that are easy and that suit our babies (like feeding to sleep, co-sleeping or full term breastfeeding) because it's against the "rules".
So it's little wonder when you have children at school it can feel like this
I think a difficulty with parents being "supportive" at school, it is maybe seen as being very Type A and hard on the kids' academic performance.
The school system becomes another "expert" and you are expected to check your opinions at the door.
So if your children go to school know this. Just like birth and early childhood they are YOUR children. You are able to make decisions that experts disagree with that are right your family. You are able to be responsible and involved as much as your child and you are comfortable in. All of the things you do outside of school hours is part of their education-give yourself credit! Don't be afraid to be the expert on your child.
Home education and the school system doesn't have to be an "us vs them" situation. We're all in it doing what we think is the best for our kids right? That means we are all on the same side.